SAH’s Response to PM About Him Not Being Invited to SAH’s Wedding
Author: JustMe
So as you may know from two posts ago – Refraining From Revenge…, a friend of SAH had sent him a message pissed about not being invited to his wedding and in the process referring to me as the “lunatic cousin” ( I have included PM’s initial message in this post as well so you don’t have to go back to read it) Well SAH’s response was rather classic and EXACTLY what I told KP SAH would respond with. First PM didn’t get an immediate response, so he sent SAH another message, this is the exchange – including misspellings and bad grammar (remember, SAH is studying to be a Medical Assistant – it’s one of the things that TL said he should do :rolleyes:)
PM: You know what… Not for nothing, but I’m a little pissed off… WHAT THE FUCK HAVEN’T WE BEEN THOUGH IN THE LAST 5 YEARS?! And I’m not good enough to be invited to your wedding?! And the real kick in the throat was seeing that nigger K was there…. I just don’t get it. Who lent you the money all those times you were down? Who was right next to you those late nights in AC? Who had your back with that lunatic cousin of yours? Let me guess he was there too right? You know what forget about it… This isn’t something a simple I’m sorry is gonna fix… I thought I knew you better………
PM: and you don’t even have it in you to answer me…
SAH: What are u talking buddy not to answer you what was your question
SAH: answer what I must have missed what u asked sorry what did u ask
PM: I was telling you how I see everything. Apparently were not as good of friends as I thought we were. I just feel kinda fucked in the whole deal..
SAH: PM I just wanna say to you am sorry you feel hurt. I understand that to answer your question no my crazy cousin was not at my weeding. I had no control over my guest list because my mom was paying her guest so am sorry i had a big fight with over it. Yes we have great times together over the last 5 years. We have both been there for each other in down and tough times. Am truly sorry for hurting you or you being upset in any way. I have just had a lot of crazy shit going on in my life the last few months. I would like to still be friends with and hang out talk with I would like to hang out with you soon so we talk and do something. I have off school all of next week let me know if you are available to hand out. Write me either way.
This is almost exactly what he has said to me so many times in the past…
First - avoid the question and pretend you don’t know what was asked and hope that you can divert attention away from it.
Second – say how sorry you are the person is hurt and you really want to hang out with them. Tell them that you are free and you will get together (of course he ends up never having the time anyway)
Third – agree with them on every point
Fourth – tell them it was wasn’t me – it was my mother and I fought really hard for you.
What I also find interesting about this exchange is that SAH first messages after PM initially approached the subject of not being invited to the wedding and calling me the “luncatic cousin” – SAH twice said he didn’t know what PM asked him. When PM once again repeated his question – which did not mention the “lunatic cousin”, SAH responded by saying “and to answer your question no my crazy cousin was not at my weeding” So basically – if he didn’t know what PM had asked him previously and he was claiming ignorance – then how would he know about the “lunatic cousin” comment. But that is the way SAH is – and I have not sought revenge or anything like that at all. Although believe me – I have thought about it.
BTW – I think I’m going to share with you some of the craiglist girl e-mails SAH was sending out.
